Ok, so here was her response, everything was fine with me....until the end....
Shawna,
We are all fine. We are four blocks from the site and all we lost was our water and electricity for the day. I apologies for not getting back to you. We literally had 30 calls that day and it's been impossible to get back to everyone. I assumed you would have talked to Dad. So much has been going on since the event. We are so lucky not to be effected but a few friends of ours have lost their homes and need as much support as you could imagine. I've been working with the school to create a donation system for those who still have the mortgages and are currently paying for hotels, meals etc...It's a nightmare for them. Insurance does not cover landslides - unbelievable! It could have been us, so I am working hard to help any way possible.
Not to mention, I've been working to clear an estate for a client, am classroom mom for Megan, in charge of our class project for our annual fundraiser at school, maintaining the house, etc...
We also have been enduring a huge loss this week. Steve's cousin was killed in a car accident on Sunday. He was in his early 30's and we are all grieving. His funeral is this Friday. Another emotional hit.
So no need to take my lack of communication personal. Life is just happening at light speed and if this effects you negatively and you are "embarrassed" then I cannot take that one on to. I could use more of a compassionate tone from you in place of a scolding. Thanks for your concern. We'll be in touch.
Love,
Stephanie
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Shawna,
I think both your note to her and her response reflect a great deal of tension and unfinished sibling business between the two of you.
Ouch, an unknown death in the family. I don't know Shawna, sort of reminds me of that scene in the movie "Me, Myself, and Irene" when he sees a guy park in the handy cap spot with no sticker and no visible sign of being disabled. The guy heads into the store and he proceeds to smash up his car for being so inconsiderate to have parked where he shouldn't. Then he sees the guy come back out escorting this disabled old man... I think I'm tipping my side on to her; you just didn't have all of the story and she was too preoccupied with double things to catch you up.
Ok - I can see both of your viewpoints on this, it's hard to explain why, you'd have to know more about her. Is her husbands cousin dying a horrible thing? Yes, but to know "Teddy" is to know that both she and her husband distance themselves from ALL family. She just threw that in to try and make me feel bad, which of course I do, but also know that she more than likely rarely if ever, was with said cousin.
I do thank you for your opinions, I'm not dismissing them at all, I am most definitely taking that into consideration.
I guess the real question is, like you said, there is most definitely tension, is it worth holding onto? Our relationship that is? Just because we are blood related, does that mean I have to be in her life?
Put her on Craig's list...go for an upgrade!
My theory is she is who she is. You can't change her and testing her to react any way other than you know she will only sets you up to get what you know you will. Frustration.
She's self-centered, un-caring, all that shit. And you know it. Don't fault her for poving you right.
Man, maybe I'm talking about someone I know. Hmmmmmm
Oh, and post again, for Baby Jesus's sake. When you don't post he cries.
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